oh my god it worked!
After following my own rules today, with mealtimes, my toddler just ate some of her lunch! We shared a plate, she sat at the table with me, and used a grown-up fork. She still threw food, she still threw utensils, she still batted things away. But she also put lots in her mouth, and wanted me to feed her some rice and plain yogurt with a spoon! She especially enjoyed drinking her water out of a real cup, and not a sippy. This after having a morning snack of cheese stick (of course) and organic banana/apple/berry snack pouch.
Notice the bangle! She likes to wear them. Do I have a future girly-girl on my hands after all???
I also turned down a friend who wanted me to come shopping with her because it would throw Jo Jo’s routine all off. When she was a baby I did what I wanted, when I wanted, and she just came along, Now I’m facing the hard fact that routine and structure are necessary for a toddler’s well-being (and perhaps appetite).