how does a three-year-old deal with loss?
At least, mine doesn’t. She’s an emotion avoider, and as such, she has not once asked where her beloved Bapa is when we’re at the house. She doesn’t look at his pictures or respond to mention of him. I had preferred that she not be at the house before his body was taken, but she was. I needn’t have worried, though, as she resolutely did not run to his bed, did not plead with him to wake up and play with her, did not try to lie in his bed or kiss his hand.
She knew he was gone. And she didn’t want to deal with it.
I was super prepared to talk about Bapa being gone, Bapa getting sick, Bapa returning to the great beyond or whatever. I did not prepare for my child to simply avoid the topic all together. I should have, thinking about it, as that is M’s way of dealing. So now I’m wondering if I should try to bring it up with her, or talk about it (even with her ignoring me), or just leave it alone?